7 Ways to Keep a New Habit

This post is by Benny Hsu of Get Busy Living.

Have you ever tried to keep a new habit only for you to stop a week or a month later? It happens to all of us.

Don’t worry—you always get another chance to start again. The next time you want to start new habits in your life, try a different approach for success.

Here are some tips to help you to keep your new habits.

1. Know why you’re doing this

Having a strong reason why you are doing something is stronger than how you will do it. Knowing why will keep you focused when you’re tempted to quit. Let me give you an example.

If there is a board ten feet long on the floor and I tell you to walk on it, will you? Of course. If I put that board connecting the top of two buildings 40 stories up, will you cross it? Most likely not. Now if your child was on the other roof and it was on fire, would you walk across? You bet you would.

The situation stayed the same but your reason for going across was the motivator. It’s what drives you.

This is why many New Year’s resolutions fail so quickly. There’s not a meaningful reason for the change. It’s just something you feel like you should be doing.

Really know why you are making this habit and want to keep it. The ones who succeed in making new habits and keeping them are the ones that have a deep reason to change. Find yours.

2. Mark an X on your calendar

When working towards making positive changes, one way to keep you going is to chart your progress. Sometimes the physical progress is harder to see because the changes are gradual. You may need a way to visually see that you are making progress.

When I was training for my first half marathon, I printed out the training calendar and put an X after each day I trained. Once I started, it was rewarding to see so many Xs and to know how far I’d progressed. I wanted to keep those X’s going. I didn’t want a blank box.

At the end of a month, I couldn’t believe how many days of running I’d actually accomplished. Seeing it motivated me to keep the momentum going.

3. Don’t break the habit

Of course that seems obvious, but it’s more than that. You don’t want to do perform your habit for two weeks and then stop for two weeks and then decide to try again. Why?

When you consistently do something with regularity it keeps the momentum going. Doing it everyday keeps you in the routine. Once you stop for a period of time it’s harder to get that rhythm again.

Make an effort to stay consistent each day. Remember slow and steady wins the race.

4. Blog about it

Instead of being accountable to just one person, take it one step further if you have a blog and post your goals on there! You’ll get encouragement but also you’ll also have report to them.

Pat Flynn recently finished a 60 day workout program with amazing results. He said one of his biggest motivations was the people checking in on his progress. He didn’t want to let them down.

5. Don’t punish yourself for falling off the wagon for one day

Earlier, I said don’t break the habit. However we are are human and good habits are not easy to keep. If you skip a day or fall off the wagon, don’t think it’s the end of the world and you’re a failure.

Look at the big picture of how you’re doing. If you are doing something for a whole month like exercising or eating healthy and have one day where you feel lazy or eat a whole pizza, don’t be too hard on yourself.

If you’re trying to cut out soda but you had one at a friend’s house, it’s okay. One day won’t ruin everything.

Focus again starting tomorrow. You’re trying to incorporate this habit into a lifetime change so you’ll have plenty of time to stay on track.

6. Get money involved

Money is always a motivating factor for most people. Here’s one way to do it.

If you want to start a new habit of reading 30 pages of non-fiction a day, four days out of the week for a month, find a friend or relative you can trust and give that person $100 at the beginning of the month.

That person will give you $25 back every week you complete your goal of reading. If you fail to complete it, the person keeps $25. If you complete a week, you get $25 back. Keep going till the end of the month.

Don’t make the amount too extravagant, but don’t make it too small, either. If you do, you won’t care if you don’t have it. Also, make sure you’re honest with your results. Lying about it defeats the whole purpose.

7. Reward yourself

Set a time frame for rewarding yourself throughout the process, not just at the end. You should reward yourself because keeping a habit isn’t easy.

At the end of your set time, say a week or two, if you’ve been doing a great job sticking to your habit, reward yourself with something you want. A day at the spa. A trip to a baseball game. A shopping trip. It’s completely up to you.

Then at the end of a longer timeframe—say a month—give yourself a bigger reward, like a small vacation. If you’ve made it that far, you truly deserve it.

Keep that habit

Studies have shown that it takes three weeks to form a good habit. Take the list above and find the ones that will best motivate you to continue. Developing better habits will lead you to more success and happiness in your life.

Benny Hsu blogs at Get Busy Living where he’s inspiring others to live a remarkable life, explore ways to help people get unstuck and find what excites them everyday. You can also follow him Twitter @Benny_Hsu.

About Guest Contributor

This post was written by a guest contributor to FeelGooder. Please see their details in the post above.

Check out Write for FeelGooder page for details about how YOU can share your tips with the FeelGooder community.

Comments

  1. Alan Takushi says:

    These are all great points Benny!

    I think the one that really gets me is punishing yourself if you fail. That would always get me in a tailspin and I’d just give up. Just know that we aren’t perfect and one fall off the wagon doesn’t make or break you. Tomorrow’s a new day…

    Also, writing things down really helped me to focus. I use to keep track of stuff on Google Calendar or a PDA but it’s just not the same. I reverted back to my old school paper notebook with “to do” lists, appointment times, etc. and just writing it all down. Placing it on paper just has a different feel to it. It’s also very satisfying to check that sucker off when it’s done as well.

    Cheers,
    Alan

  2. Great post Benny. For me, the major point is not to let one day ruin it all. I’d say this is the major reaso. I’ve had so many failures in my resolutions. And it’s something I still need to work on. For instance, I start a diet, go a week doing well,a nd mess up one day and just give up.

    Something I really need to work on.

    • Benny says:

      Hey Brandon,

      Definitely keep an eye on the big picture. Don’t let one day get you down. Two steps forward and one step back is okay.

      Thanks for reading and commenting!

  3. One day at a time… Little by little… It’s the small, consistent changes that lead to big, long term lifestyle habits. TY!

    • Benny says:

      Hi Kris!

      You’re absolutely right. Consistency is the key! Any new changes aren’t going to happen over night. They take time to build up and results may not been seen for awhile. But once it hits that tipping point, then we really begin to see that the hard work paid off.

      Thanks Kris!

  4. Undeniably believe that which you said. Your favorite reason seemed to be on the net the easiest thing
    to be aware of. I say to you, I certainly
    get annoyed while people consider worries that they plainly do not know about.
    You managed to hit the nail upon the top and defined out the whole thing without having
    side effect , people can take a signal. Will probably be back to get more.

    Thanks

  5. When I originally commented I clicked the “Notify me when new comments are added” checkbox and now each time a comment is added I get three e-mails with
    the same comment. Is there any way you can remove me from that service?
    Thanks a lot!

  6. Sauf si vous 锚tes en mesure de trouver l’argent pour vous procurer un nouveau sac LV r茅el chaque saison, vous anticipez une personne qui r茅siste 脿 l’adoption de tendances tentent look incroyable depuis des ann茅es. En plus de cela, nous pr茅sumons qu’il est vital que vous avez vraiment, comme elle et ne sommes pas simplement acqu茅rir le statut ornot que vous pensez que nous avons trouv茅 beaucoup influencebecause puissant aussi. leur liste. Aussi, soyez conscient que, s’il est actualis茅e ne signifie pas toujours qu’il sera probablement le sac pour vos besoins. Lauren conseille: 芦Ne pas acqu茅rir un sac Louis Vuitton que l’on retrouve 脿 moins que la r茅alit茅 tend 脿 锚tre que l’on vous doit. Face 脿 vais passer beaucoup de financement ind茅pendamment, les fonds liste de prix pour quelque chose que vous aurez passion pour un certain nombre d’ann茅es . weathereventuallytoo N茅anmoins froid, va passer. Et aussi qui est capable de venir un arc en ciel v茅n茅rable du printemps 2012 sacs 脿 main qui pourrait mettre temp茅ratures chaudes avec nos garde-robes. Vraiment, peu de choses deviennent nos hausse des temp茅ratures beaucoup plus qu’il est probable qu’un tr猫s nouveau Louis sac Vuitton.

  7. domain says:

    Pretty! This has been an extremely wonderful post.
    Many thanks for supplying this information.

  8. Thanks , I’ve just been lookijng for info about this
    topic for ages aand yours is the greatest I have found
    out soo far. But, what concerning tthe bottom line? Aree you postive about the supply?

  9. This is a very good tip particularly to those new to the
    blogosphere. Brief but very accurate information…
    Appreciate your sharing this one. A must read article!

  10. If you want to take a great deal from this paragraph then you have to apply these methods to
    your won web site.

Speak Your Mind

*