Change Your Love Life on Your Lunch Break

This post is by Dennis Miedema of Win With Women.

Imagine combining work and dating so you could meet your very own Angelina Jolie while you’re still climbing the corporate ladder. Wouldn’t that be a dream come true?

Let’s face it: it’s frustrating to come home to an empty, lonely house, only to realize that your job is so soul-sucking that you have zero energy left to go out and meet women.

But what if there was a way to combine work and dating? Imagine not driving home, but floating home, feeling proud that you put in 40+ hours of work this week and still managed to get a few phone numbers and dates.

Step1: Quit the routines

Do you remember how many people wore red last time you went to the store? No? No one does.

If you repeat any activity often enough, it becomes a routine, and that means you stop paying attention to it. Daily routines, obligations, and morning rituals are all routines.

Routines are bad news if you want to combine work and dating. Why? Because you don’t realize what’s going on around you. You programmed yourself to do one thing, and that’s it.

The result: you walk right past that cute brunette you could have talked to if you were paying attention. You didn’t even see her, did you?

There are lots of times when this happens: on your way to work, during lunch break, on your way home, on your way to the supermarket … The list goes on, and on, and on.

If you want to combine work and dating, then make practical use of your time. Talk to women on your way to work, during your lunch break, and so on.

Cut the routines. Start looking around again. Wake up!

Step 2: Start talking

What do us men do when women look our way? Often, we assume they’re looking at someone or something behind us. Or that they accidentally looked our way. Or maybe even that we must look funny somehow.

The average human eye needs less than half a second to recognize its surroundings. Within a second our body reacts to what we see.

So when that fine lady over there looks your way for longer than a second, it means something. It means she could be interested. All you have to do is smile, and if she smiles back? Start talking.

While you’re worrying about how you’ll feel if you walk up to a woman and find she doesn’t want to talk to you, keep this in mind: most of us human beings feel rejected when we make eye contact with others, and they don’t act on it. It’s worth the risk: I promise. Count the number of times a day when women look your way for a couple seconds. You’ll be surprised—shocked even. You can meet all of them if you want to!

Fellas, wake up and start seeing what’s going on. And do something useful with your lunch time and your commute, won’t you?

Dennis Miedema is known for sharing no-nonsense tips for men to improve their love life and social life on his Win With Women blog, for his coffee and movie addictions, and for his brutal sarcasm that makes even the crappiest moments in life put a smile on your face.