Why is it that surmounting challenges—even those we don’t realize are challenges when we first meet them—is so difficult? The advantage is that sense of accomplishment when we’re done. No matter what the outcome, at least we gave it a shot.
Sometimes, though, we find we’ve mysteriously overcome a challenge that we’d given up ever solving…
What have you overcome recently?
For me, the answer to this question is: family misunderstanding. I’m not talking about one big misunderstanding, but the general feeling of bewilderment that many of us have about at least some family members. You know what I’m talking about: that sense that Aunty Beryl must actually have come from another planet, or that your brother is operating on a completely different level from you.
I think this sense of otherness can be particularly strong within families, precisely because, with a shared history, we feel that these people, at least, should be comprehensible to us—and vice versa. Perhaps it’s for that very reason that their behavior often seems so inexplicable.
Recently I’ve started to overcome that feeling within some elements of my own family. I think this has had to do with that family growing. The new child has given us a new perspective and added to the family as a whole in some subtle (as well as the not-so-subtle!) ways. Suddenly, other family members’ behavior has become more explicable. And perhaps mine has too.
This was a “problem” I had long since given up “solving.” It’s funny how sometimes life will solve something for us, without our even trying, don’t you think?
What about you? What have you overcome recently? I’d love to hear your story in the comments.