Most people, by the time they’re grown, have experienced at least one heart-break in their romantic life. You know: the gut-wrenching kind that leaves you scarred for life.
After being hurt so badly, it can be hard to think of moving on. Sometimes you may think you’ll never get over your lost love.
While it may take time, once you think you’re ready then go ahead and get yourself back out there. Here are some handy tips to help:
1. Be brave
Just because you’ve been hurt before, doesn’t mean you should stop seeking relationships. You will need to let your guard down eventually. Love does hurt sometimes, but other times it’s amazing.
A great relationship will blend the both beautifully into one long journey—although, in a great relationship, the ups will far outweigh the downs.
2. Work out what you want
I believe you should learn something from every relationship and sit down and work out what you want from your next one. What will the relationship look like? What sort of qualities will your new romantic interest have?
Something amazing happens when we write goals down. The universe manifests to help us along and get our needs met. Just be careful that you don’t make your tick-boxes too specific. It’s not: “He must have blue eyes, blonde hair and be an architect.” Think more like: “Kind, family values, laughs a lot.”
Once you’ve written it down, put it away and forget about it. Chances are, you’ll find your list years later and realize it is a very accurate description of your new love!
3. Be your own person
When you do start dating again, don’t be one of those people who forgets about all their friends and gives everything up for their partner.
Keep your own hobbies, and try not to see them seven days a week. As exciting as falling in love may be, you don’t need to be attached at the hip.
If you are, you’re setting up patterns for failure later in your relationship—no one can maintain that level of contact with someone. And your friends won’t be happy, either, if you ditch them every time someone new comes along.
4. Have fun!
Take the opportunity to try new date ideas, push your comfort circles a little and explore new things. If you’re having a lot of fun on your dates, there will be barely any time to get nervous about it!
What tips can you add from your experiences moving on after heartbreak?