By: Joy

Joy — Tue, 24 Apr 2012 06:32:09 +0000

Hi, I really enjoyed this article… I googled “thoughtful men” fishing for confirmation and understanding . My man of just about five months now shows up as less thoughtful than I’d like. I’ve even thought of not remaining involved with him because I’m not feeling
“courted” as much as I’m feeling like he’s too used to me and too comfortable as if he’s not
putting the effort out to impress me at all. It’s
confusing because in several ways and in many things that he says I can tell he really
cares about me but when I need him to show me he cares he’ll do what I ask like you mentioned in your article but I had to ask and that’s what ruins it for me. When I recently became I’ll with a chest cold and he doesn’t come to my place to check on me or ask me if I need anything from the store it hurts. I asked him to bring me orange juice and I could tell it wasn’t what he really had in mind for his evening but he sucked it up and was nice and came over with what I had asked for. I wish he valued me more that’s how I feel “less valued” … I aske myself should I be looking elsewhere and find a more thoutful guy? His lack of attentiveness has showed up in other areas also but I’ve shared with him how I feel and he’s trying. It’s just that there are times when I do want him to “read my mind” some things , especially for a sick partner , should be obvious… ” can I get you anything?” …. Simple. Am I taking crumbs of the table like a desperate woman from a man who is just using me? Or are most men this
off track?

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By: Joy